Before progress and sustainability can be made in any relationship, it should be built on some ideals or principles that would guard or keep it in place.
In every form of relationship including courtship, defining your ideals is very necessary. For long lasting relationship, I vouch that some important human relation principles should not be compromised.
Trust, proper communication, sacrifice, kindness, respect and affirming your religious faith are important.
Because these ideals are priceless and do not come on a silver platter, it is important for the would-be couple and couples to work at achieving that benchmark that would create a blossom marriage.
If you are yet to go down the aisle, you are ‘lucky’ enough to work at achieving these ideals, however, if you are already married, you will still need to work harder to keep your marriage in ‘shape’.
Remember, trust will be needed when your relationship is tested by ‘external forces’ such as long distance.
Each person in a relationship demonstrates their trustworthiness through consistency in their actions, so endeavour to be ‘predictable’ to your partner.
It is worth noting that to be able to trust someone, you should first and foremost trust yourself. You may have been hurt by someone in the past so trusting people is difficult for you, but mind that the person who broke your trust in the past made that choice; you should not take responsibility for someone else’s actions or decisions.
You are on a new page, so there is no need rehashing past negativities. Move on with positivity.
Again, show respect by regarding things that matter to your partner; such as family relations, associations, religious stances.
Additionally, bits of kindness, sacrifice and support are key for long lasting relationships, creating the impression that in times of difficulties, you will be a pillar for your partner will go a long way to ‘establish’ your hold on your loved one.
Once you have satisfied all these ideals, it is a good sign that you are committed to your relationship and as stated in the Bible: Matthew 18:19 New International Version (NIV),
“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.”
You will succeed.